10 Years Later

(Warning: this blog post contains somewhat graphic content which may be distressing to some readers. If you are in crisis and need support please call Lifeline on 13 11 14).


On the afternoon of November 17th, 2007 at around 3pm my dad chose to climb a small step-ladder, string a piece of electrical cord over a rafter of my family’s shed and hang himself.

Shortly after I arrived home and discovered his body.

I was 15.


10 years later – I have created an organisation in my dad’s name. I have converted the space where my dad took his own life into a positive one. And I have brought my family together.


On the afternoon of November 17th, 2017 at around 3pm I chose to climb that small step-ladder and string a boxing bag from the very same rafter of the shed.

Shortly after I kicked the absolute shit out of it in the presence of people who love me.

I am 25.



10 years is a long time.

My family, like so many other families, continue to suffer.

I could ramble on for days here – but I don’t need to.

Action inspires action.

I didn’t want to climb that ladder. But I know it was necessary. For my actions, like yours, inspire the actions of others. My actions show people that there is a way forward.





Photos by my cousin @joshua_kane_photography and myself.

8 Comments. Leave a comment


  1. JAN
    November 19, 2017


  2. Angela Peel
    November 19, 2017

    You are an amazing young man Brendan. Out of this tragedy you have created an organisation that spreads awareness. You have helped numerous people with your slogan ‘create dialogue – inspire change’. We wish you strength to continue your journey. With love from Malta – Angela and John

  3. Jodie
    November 19, 2017

    Hi Brendan
    Thank you so much for being an inspiration.
    I am an Ambassador for Happiness Co. It is a social movement that is about to release something big with men’s mental health. I would love to see if you could chat with the founder who has a very similar story and is now an inspirational/motivation speaker. He lost his dad to suicide on his 21st birthday and then within next 3 years he also lost his cousin and best friend. Saving lives is his goal.
    Jodie Strawbridge

  4. Denise Close
    November 19, 2017

    So touching Brendan your Mum and Dad would be so proud of you ❤ RIP Cuz xx

  5. Tamara Horsnell
    November 19, 2017

    So inspirational❤️ When my uncle committed suicide it tore our family apart. I was also 15 and now 32, it’s sad the family still doesn’t speak! Keep up the great work! I’m an ambassador for new access at beyond blue and I reckon beyond blue would get behind your story and share it.

  6. Mandy Laidlaw
    November 20, 2017

    Well done Brendan. …well done
    Love, hugs and best wishes.

  7. Michaela Leahy
    November 21, 2017

    So very proud of you Bren, can’t believe that gut wrenching day was 10 yrs ago. Love you xxx

  8. Adam strumpman
    August 26, 2019

    Great work mate, and great words.
    Can’t wait to get back !

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